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<span id=busuanzi_value_page_pv><i class="fa fa-spinner fa-spin"></i></span> Hits</div></div><p>  很早之前其实就和你说过这个问题。如果一个男的生病要死了，或者像我这样欠了也许一辈子都还不清的债，又或者看到自己心爱的人遇到了更好的人，那作为男人，多半会选择离开，这与女的是否愿意无关。</p><p>  今天和你说想到以后可以浪迹天涯，四海为家。你说你不愿意，还说如果再次去上海，父母也会有意见。一句话点醒了我——我规划的未来里，不应该再有你了。</p><p>  我们在一起快四年了，如果不出意外的话，我们应该会在苏州过着普通人的日子。有一套足够大到可以五胎六胎的房子，再过几年，还会有一辆老板送的宝马。两个人在同一个公司上下班，每天都可以迎着日出快步赶去上班，然后看着日落慢悠悠的骑车回家。日复一日，平平淡淡，操心着和别人一样的生活琐事。有房有车，或许还有一点存款，有老人有孩子，有一个完整的家。</p><p>  但是一切美好已经注定灰飞烟灭。我自己背负了几十万的债务，还要考虑父母养老和日常开销，而工资连还利息都不够。现在大家都还健健康康的，但是可以预见父母总会老去，会有病痛，也许过不了几年我都要到处求人借钱给父母看病了。我欠的钱很有可能一辈子都还不清。所有我们一起畅想过的美好未来，都在父母确定投资失败的那一刻永远的逝去了。</p><p>  这一切都不是我能左右的，也不是父母的错。对于我来说，男子汉顶天立地，这些事既然到我头上了，我就应该要承担。你知道我也不是为钱而活的，没有钱对我没有什么。但是没有钱，还欠了很多钱，给不了你未来。</p><p>  你是女孩子，又是金牛座，天性就喜欢稳定，你也跟我说过几次，你不需要多大的房子，只想要有一个自己的家。但是你看现在，想要一个住的地方都要动歪脑筋，打法律的擦边球。我不想做一个坏人，这套房子等送走了父母，肯定要给人家的，接下来就是居无定所的生活。</p><p>  我知道你今天虽然说不愿意，但是如果事实只能如此，我相信你会陪我再去找房子、租房、换工作、再租房。住不好，饿肚子，生不起孩子，看不起病。这些事我不想你和我一起承担，你父母也不会同意的。我并不是没有勇气站在你父母面前，斩钉截铁的告诉他们，我有前途，可以给你一个确定的未来。我也至今都不认为我没有这个能力，只是我觉得，没有必要让你承担这个风险和这个痛苦的过程。</p><p>  我不想看你买不起自己想穿的衣服，我不想你只能和我同喝一杯奶茶，我不想你每次和父母开视频的时候，明明一肚子的委屈，却还要跟他们说你过得很好。你说你想去北京和西藏，西藏可能一辈子都去不起，北京或许可以去，但肯定也是以工作的名义。别人周末都在各种 ins 打卡，而我们可能要在奶茶店打工，也可能是其他各种店做兼职，也许会被人看不起，也许会被人欺负，永远都抬不起头，只能低三下四的苟活。</p><p>  很抱歉喜欢上了你，又带你远离了家乡，让你看过了城市的灯红酒绿，也许你回家以后会感觉不适应了，会再次向往城市的生活。其实你本该在老家，有自己的房子，自己的地，会认识邻村的帅气男孩，会有一个温馨的家，日出而作，日落而息。过着最为平淡，但最为幸福的生活，不用争，不用抢，不用卷，幸福就摆在那里。</p><p>  哈哈我也很后悔喜欢你，和你在一起，尝过了爱情的滋味，剩下漫长的生命里只会留下无尽的痛苦，爱情本就不该属于我的，不该属于一个没有确定的未来。</p><p>  在看不到公司未来的时候，我就答应过自己，如果将来有一天确定没办法再翻身了，一定不要连累你。我想现在是这个时候了。</p><p>  对不起，我希望你能不要怪我。唉，其实怪我也没事啦，你过得好就行。</p><p>  傻孩子，一定要幸福哦~😃</p></article><div class=py-2><div class="my-8 flex flex-col items-center md:flex-row"><a href=https://b.hui.ke/authors/hui.ke/ class="md:me-4 text-primary-text h-24 w-24"><img src=https://b.hui.ke/bagua.webp class="bg-primary-bg w-full rounded-full" alt=Avatar></a><div class="mt-4 w-full md:mt-0 md:w-auto"><a href=https://b.hui.ke/authors/hui.ke/ class="mb-2 block border-b pb-1 text-lg font-bold"><h3>Hui.Ke</h3></a><span class="block pb-2">❤ Cyber Security | Safety is a priority.</span>
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